I know it's early, but I'm excited to announce that I'll be a vendor Wentzville School Districts Staff Wellness Fair on Monday, August 12, 2019 at Timberland High School. This year I will be having a giveaway, but I haven't decided what it is yet. Any ideas? If you're a teacher or staff member in the WSD, come out and see me. I will have information to help with those stressful work days when the students just aren't focusing or are rambunctious. Maybe your home life is chaotic and you're at your wits end. Whatever is stressing you out, I am here to help. I accept Anthem Blue Cross/Blue Shield to help make counseling easier to afford. I hope to see you then!
DDP was created by Dan Hughes, a Clinical Psychologist from Pennsylvania. It is a family-based therapy and is focused on helping children develop a secure attachment with their adoptive and/or foster parents. Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy, known as PACE, is used to help children regulate their feelings about their past and create new meanings in the child's life story.
I completed Level 1 training this month and was completely fascinated by this type of therapy. After 7 hours of listening and comprehending this new therapy, I was exhausted and just wanted to eat dinner and go to bed as soon as possible. But on the drive home, I decided I would to try this out with my son, who is adopted. He is frequently asking me to play with him and I usually am busy doing something else. But this time I got down on the floor and played with his LEGOs letting him lead the way (using Playfulness). An hour later it was time for bath, books, and bed, which is usually a source of frustration for my son and my husband and me. I cannot tell you how smoothly this particular night actually went! We were thrilled that just that little amount of attention helped him to listen to us. I will stress that Playfulness doesn't always mean physically playing with your child. My husband is great at having a playful voice and matching our son's playful intensity.
If your foster or adoptive child isn't attaching like you expected due to developmental trauma, contact me and we can work together to help you both learn a new way to communicate. Here is more information on DDP: https://ddpnetwork.org/.
UPDATE: WINNERS HAVE BEEN CHOSEN.
We are getting into the deepest part of winter. It's dark by 5pm, the holidays are over, school is back in session, snow keeps falling outside, and we are beginning to have cabin fever. Sometimes this can mean our spouse or partner (and kids) can get on our nerves. Tempers get short, the kids are acting up, you’re tired of eating the same old pot roast and potatoes for dinner. Maybe you’ve been putting off date night. Maybe you had one scheduled then it snowed. Now’s the time to find a sitter because Valentine’s Day is less than a month away. If you've been thinking about working on your relationship, this may be the opportunity to do it.
Right now, I’m offering a $50 gift card to your favorite restaurant to celebrate this day of love. Take some time to rebuild your relationship or spice it up.
*Giveaway is open to new and current couples, not individuals. Visit www.megchapmanllc.com/promotions to enter. Winner will be announced through email provided. Must have had one session with me by February 14, 2019, to qualify. Giveaway ends February 14, 2019 at midnight/CST.
Christmas is a time to celebrate family and friends, to give cheer and joy, spread kindness and be helpful. If you’ve been considering adoption, you may think, “Right now just isn’t the time. It’s too stressful this time of year.” I know I thought the same thing when I imagined what it might have been like for me to begin the process or finalize an adoption during the holiday. But after talking with an acquaintance about my concerns, she said, “What’s a better time to do this?!” If you are interested in learning more about what this might look like for you, consider these ideas to help get you started:
I’d recommend starting a Word document, journal, or folder where you can type things up or write feelings down or print out information that you’ve found helpful. Being organized in this situation will help ease feelings of anxiety and becoming overwhelmed. Even though this time of year is stressful with work parties, school recitals, shopping for presents, or seeing those pregnancy announcements on social media, building or continuing to build your family through adoption doesn’t have to be daunting.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
While today is the day of love, you might find yourself in a relationship that may have lost its spark. The romance has died or the passion has faded. There is still love but it’s clouded by everyday life. You may find yourself saddened by this or feeling lonely in your relationship. Stop just going through the motions of your relationship and vow to make today be a new start.
A great way to think about your relationship is in terms of a bank account. We each have a separate one and we would all love to have it remain full. Remember when you were kids and for Valentine’s Day at school you had to create a Valentine’s box out of a shoe box? Each time a Valentine was dropped into your box, it was exciting. It made you feel good, didn’t it? If you start your relationship adding little things to this account, it will grow. But if you stop, the goodness drains. Keep investing in your relationship by trying a few of the following things:
Awhile back I created a blog. You don't see them in the archives? Well, that's because I did a good job keeping up with them at first, for about a month, then I got busy and stopped. This is my second attempt to keep up with blogging in hopes that I can help you and you can learn a little about me.
For starters, this weekend's weather was FANTASTIC! Here in Missouri, in the middle of February, we don't see 70 degree days like we did on Saturday. Sunday was much different; windy and cooler. I spent most of the day outside soaking up the free Vitamin D, walking the dog, watching my husband pull weeds out of the yard, and listening to the sounds of my son playing with his friend. I have seen a lot of clients lately that struggle with depression. It's hard not to when we've had more cloudy days in the past two months than sunny. Next time you are feeling low or fatigued, try out the four things I mentioned. I realize not everyone has a spouse or partner, but find a good friend and have a conversation. I spent Sunday rearranging three rooms in my house. Clutter bothers me and where I sit on the couch to relax, I can see all the toys from my son's playroom spill into every other room in the house. Something had to be done. After rearranging the rooms, I felt so much better. I hadn't wasted another day getting mad about the clutter because something had been done. This may not have been your ideal way of spending a weekend. Whatever it is that pulls you out of that depressive state you are in, take advantage of the nicer weather headed your way and of spending your time wisely.